Daily Supports
- Nicole Avery
- Dec 13, 2020
- 2 min read
Available resources to help one complete the task at hand. That would be my definition of support. I am fortunate to have many support systems. My co-workers, my best friend, Starbucks, Google, my planner, but the important support I have is my husband. He is my personal cheerleader, my therapist, my friend and colleague. I don't know what I would do without him. His sage wisdom, his listening ear, his arms that I can fall into when I have had a rough day or someone to laugh and share my greatest joys. He is my friend, and I like him a lot, but more than that. I value him. For the last 21 years his has been my constant support, or as Meredith Grey would say, "He is my person" and I don't know if I could do life without him.
I have just recently, within the last month started seeing a therapist. That might seem like a strange thing to admit, at least for me. I have always been the person that others could come to for support, but in October life began to get the best of me. I was not going through a particular rough time, but I knew where I was mentally, I needed help. I was not suicidal, but I was battling anxiety attacks, lack of sleep, could loss of focus and depression. My life had significantly change since COVID. I made the decision, a hard decision, to seek the help of a therapist. I needed a safe place to be able to discuss what I was feeling and going through, without feeling like a burden or a source of worriment for my family.
My therapist is teaching strategies to cope with daily stresses it has not been easy but I am making the best of it. Life for me has changed.
However, when I think about children that may be facing these same challenges and can not identify that something is wrong, or even how to ask for help. What is our responsibility to the child and their families. We are to try everything that we know to be possible to get assistances for that child. If were a child with an emotional disorder if feel that I would need a few supports in place. My caregivers would have to be trained with calm down strategies and additional supports for the classroom. I would probably need a therapist to assist my in identifying and coping with my emotions. Parents who are understanding and supportive and lastly peer supports.
Nicole,
I enjoy how transparent you were in this post. It make me get a visual understanding with everything you were saying.
Shuntay,
I would like to first acknowledge your bravery in discussing such personal information about yourself. The honesty and disclosure of that information will help aid in the healing process. As mentioned on Fix my life, it will open your heart. Next, I would like to briefly talk about the value you mentioned having for your husband. The strong unthought of connection between support and value holds more association than I thought of. In short, both parties must value each other, in order for a support system to truly work. well that is my thoughts on the two terms. Would you agree or disagree?
LaDedria Taylor
I love your open and honesty, and I completely share your feelings of needing a safe place to express your feelings. I recently have been feeling the same way, and was afraid to admit it. Reading your post was very helpful and encouraging.
Nicole
Thank you for sharing something that needs to be more accepted by society and considered normal and actually should be encouraged. Therapy is not strange, if we think about it most of us have one it just isn’t their profession. I share your thoughts when it comes to your feelings for you husband, it reminded me of my own marriage. I tell people often that “I don’t want to do life without him”. I wish you much success. Continue to grow and lean on those that are around you for your support...